You said you would like to connect with your partner. Here are the exercises. Try each one for a little bit. The ones that were challenging to you, please come back to and do again. You want connection, you want rapport and it is absolutely worth the effort.
Let’s basically do one every day, for exposure and then come back and do them until you get good at them.
You got this!
When you are doing something new, get yourself in a learning mindset. Assume that you will take full responsibility for it being successful and positive. Get rid of the old habit and install a new habit. Be patient with both yourself and your partner.
Learn something new about yourself.
Be open that you might you consciously understand what is happening or how this is working to establish rapport and be okay with it. It will kick in and sometimes it might surprise you. You just click after doing it or doing it. The fact that you care enough about connecting means a bunch to your partner. It is great that you are exerting effort to connect with them.
Match your partner’s body language during a conversation. You can either mirror them (they cross their right leg and you can either cross the same (match) or the other (mirror them). Don’t do it for every single thing they do or it is weird. Do not tell them when you are doing it and try not to be obvious.
Want to match their body language, but not get caught? Try this. When they are tapping their foot, you tap your finger in same tempo. You said you wanted connection – don’t forget each of you is to do this.
I wonder what we will do tomorrow to connect.