Emily Nagoski PhD
The best predictor of sex and relationship satisfaction is not frequency of sex, or what they did, or even whether they had orgasms. The best predictor of sex and relationship satisfaction was whether they cuddled after sex. They are best friends, they prioritize sex.
You put your body in the bed, you let your skin touch your partner skin, you allow yourself to remember how much you like this person, how much you enjoy sex.
Pleasure is the measure, not how much passion you feel for your partner, or how much you spontaneously desire them or they desire you, but how much pleasure you experience when you connect sexually.
Remove the things that are hitting your brakes. Allow the accelerator to be activated.
Connection is created by connecting. If you feel the lack of connection, then connect. If there’s dread about sex, seek outside help.
Sometimes the sex is just not desirable, similar to the blog about rotten fruit. We tend to not like rotten fruit. Change something about the situation, the context, the relationship but don’t catch feelings because someone is not interested in sex that does not fulfill.
The best predictor of sex and relationship satisfaction is not frequency of sex, or what they did, or even whether they had orgasms. The best predictor of sex and relationship satisfaction was whether they cuddled after sex. They are best friends, they prioritize sex.
You put your body in the bed, you let your skin touch your partner skin, you allow yourself to remember how much you like this person, how much you enjoy sex.
Pleasure is the measure, not how much passion you feel for your partner, or how much you spontaneously desire them or they desire you, but how much pleasure you experience when you connect sexually.
Remove the things that are hitting your brakes. Allow the accelerator to be activated.
Connection is created by connecting. If you feel the lack of connection, then connect. If there’s dread about sex, seek outside help.
Sometimes the sex is just not desirable, similar to the blog about rotten fruit. We tend to not like rotten fruit. Change something about the situation, the context, the relationship but don’t catch feelings because someone is not interested in sex that does not fulfill.
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