Do you act like a dictator and expect them to submit?
What is your relationship to authoritarianism?
This will play out in your intimate relationships and you won’t like how it ends.
Let’s strive for sharing power with your partner, that’s what healthy partners do.
They make decisions together, using Bayes Rule to achieve a Nash Equilibrium.
Let’s be honest, not everyone wants a partner.
Some people want to dominate the significant other and they want someone to do the yuck chores, the bad jobs, the undesirable and they want to reap the rewards.
Look at how someone is a boss at work and if they ask their people to do the undesirable work or if they help out.
This person will be a better partner, more egalitarian, if that is what you are looking for.
We are remarkably consistent in our outlook at work and at home. The authoritarian boss is likely to be an authoritarian parent and authoritarian partner. “Do as I say, not as I do,” is one of their mottos.
They do not share power because they like their position of power over you, and others.
Play it all the way to the end. When you get in a disagreement. When you really want something and they don’t…how does that play out?