People are really anxious at the beginning of relationships.
When a relationship struggles, there are usually feelings of anxiety or distress.
When a couple decides that it is not “worth it,” very often what they mean is that they cannot handle their emotions and the work involved in coping with their personal demons is not worth the payoff.
Frequently, after this happens, one of the two comes to me and we work through distress tolerance exercises. To be in relationship is to deal with stress and insecurity. To be in successful relationship is to give and receive reassurance.
I am a hopeless (hopeful) optimist and I believe that love is absolutely worth it, when communication is good.
Perhaps another blog will highlight just how much we over value talking rather than listening. Listening for understanding is the key to communication. It is very reassuring and helps to know one another on deeper levels.