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Take the Higher Road

5/17/2012

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I just got back from a wonderful retreat to remove obstacles to compassion. I thought I was fairly compassionate and found multiple ways I can be more compassionate than I even realized.
For example:
Imagine seeing your spouse through God's eyes.
Imagine seeing yourself through God's eyes.

This one continues to challenge me and it is the cornerstone of counseling-Your mind is a mirror and reflects whatever you have in your mind. If you are angry at someone, consider that your anger is an internal mindset. You wrote the computer code in your brain, so that anger is yours. You can change the code, just don't blame someone else for making you angry. You are responsible for your feelings and your reactions.  There is no “other”. When you are mad, you are mad at yourself.  Once you are perfect, you can focus on fixing your partner.

Your feelings are impermanent. They change, like everything else. When you base a big decision solely on feelings, know that at some point soon your feelings will change and you will regret your decision.

Open your heart to people rather than defend yourself. When you defend your heart against getting hurt, you also block the other feelings from reaching you. You numb yourself.

More to come.

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