Imagine the barista calls my name for the order and I go and get it and let her remain seated.
Some women would interpret that as a kind gesture.
Depending on their baggage, context or culture, that might be a bad thing.
“The man is not supposed to serve the woman,” was a new one for me. The rest of the date went poorly as she looked at me differently. I had defied an unwritten rule from her culture and could not be forgiven.
There is no way to know all the rules someone else has, unless they tell you.
Yes, behavior is primary in relationships and yet, without good communication, behavior does not have context and making repairs after such a rupture is not likely.
Please talk about what you expect and why.
Some women would interpret that as a kind gesture.
Depending on their baggage, context or culture, that might be a bad thing.
“The man is not supposed to serve the woman,” was a new one for me. The rest of the date went poorly as she looked at me differently. I had defied an unwritten rule from her culture and could not be forgiven.
There is no way to know all the rules someone else has, unless they tell you.
Yes, behavior is primary in relationships and yet, without good communication, behavior does not have context and making repairs after such a rupture is not likely.
Please talk about what you expect and why.
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