The next few blogs will be from the Tantric Massage book by Green and Sanders- highly recommend you get it for the specifics. I will give you enough information to get your curiosity going, though.
“If a couple practices the techniques of tantra, then the bond that they share will surpass the physical realm and will help them connect on a spiritual and emotional level. It will revitalize your body, but it will energize your mind and soul as well. It will soothe your spirit and help you to rekindle your sexual energy.” If you are looking at this just for sex or physical connection, you may have missed the point. It rejuvenates the relationship and balances you and creates deep appreciation in your partner.
“Tantric massage makes use of all the dormant sexual energy that is present in the body for attaining a superior state of sexual awareness. It is believed that this energy has got the power to unite lovers by transcending the mental and physical boundaries and help in creating a truly ecstatic experience.” Think about how you feel fatigued or low energy sometimes and imagine releasing the dormant energy… Do you want ecstasy and what that could do for your relationship?
“Tantric massage will make you feel like you’re in a state of trance where there are no physical boundaries. The concept of time and space ceases to exist and no problems or seem to be important or you probably will forget about your worries. Your sex drive will experience a positive change.
“It can also be made use of as a medium for forging trust, love and intimacy.” Think about what this could do for you and your relationship and whether your relationship could handle the passion this could unleash.
“Every part of the body needs to be given special attention. Long, smooth, and circular strokes should be made use of one massaging a person for arousing their senses. It is about experiencing the body to the fullest, and this can be achieved via loving and gentle strokes.
“One goal is to awaken the senses with a series of touches and strokes. Begin the massage at the back shoulders and neck.” Let yourself receive and let your body awaken, experiencing your body to its fullest… feel loved and cherished and enjoy your partner wanting to bring you pleasure.
“When there is not an expectation of men to perform well and when there’s no specific goal in mind, men perform better sexually. Tantric massage will help in teaching you to enjoy the moment... it’s all about drawing out the pleasure to make the experience more intense.” Live in the moment and just hang out there. No expectations, no destination, just here, right now… Can you handle the intensity or will you avoid it? Just be present.
Exercise: Ask your partner if they want a foot rub or a backrub or a tantric massage this weekend. Plan out when it will be and prepare for it.