The idea behind these writings is to reintroduce respect and sacredness into sexuality. Honor the divine in your partner and in yourself.
“During a Tantric massage, all five senses should be stimulated for creating a better experience.
“For women (their genitals) you would want to use water-based lubricant. The rest of their body- oil base is fine and for men oil base is fine for the entire body. Make sure you use some lubricant because your hands are dry and a dry rub does not feel as good (micro abrasions from the tiny cuts which make your hands similar to sandpaper).
“The idea behind this is quite simple is about bringing your partner to a highly aroused state and letting them stay in that state for a while.” Imagine not rushing to ejaculation, just enjoying the moment, bringing pleasure and playing with your partner’s body, teasing their senses to the edge, and then backing off- all the while wanting the best experience for your partner.
“Take into account all five senses and please put a pillow under the hips you can put a towel over the pillow.
“It is crucial that the receiver feels comfortable while making comments and requests regarding a massage harder or lighter asking for a break.
“Communication is vital please make sure that you talk about expectations before you start.” Let the person know what you want, what you like, because this is about you. Harder, faster, slower, longer strokes, scratching lightly, silky, feather etc. This is how they get to know you, do not hold back that information. Let yourself be known. What you want matters. Teach them how to please you and know yourself well enough that you can teach them. Let them surprise you with new and different, but please communicate. Some couples choose to not have sex after the massage, so as to not confuse touch with sex. Some couples enjoy great sex after the massage. As long as you are communicating.
Exercise: Talk about the type of lube you want. Remember to get both oil based and water based (for her genitals). Purchase it together, for extra conversation and extra points.