Try the Gottman deck of cards
Talk about how and where are you most like to be touched just for receiving affection, not sex.
While both of you are naked, one of you stand behind the other and make love in front of a mirror.
Describe what you love about your partners face.
Surprise your partner with a small gift.
Unplug your phone for an evening and just talk to one another. Understanding must precede advice be a good listener.
Tell your partner what you appreciate. Sincere compliments only.
Together, choose a new position and talk about it after.
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From Cosmopolitan- “365 Naughty Nights”
Lick her from the back of her neck just where her hairline starts, to her tailbone. There are tons of nerve endings all along the trail.
Lie with your head at the foot of the bed and have him get on top. Then put up your feet, flat against the wall or the bedframe, so you can thrust back.
Get into missionary position, and lift your butt up and down in sync with his thrusts.
Take a shower with her, and pat her entire body dry, lingering on her breasts, between her legs, and on her butt.
Massage each other’s butts, which are packed with nerves.
Have her put her hair in a ponytail, and gently yank it while doing her from behind. Ask her first.
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Hold his face right in front of yours both with eyes open, so he can watch your face scrunch up as you climax.
His face down on the bed, rub your nipples all over his neck, back, butt, and thighs.
Most importantly, talk about whether it made you feel connected. Talk about your sex life with your partner if you want to feel more connected. Talk about it before you do anything different and see if your partner would want to do the thing you are thinking. Respect and honor the “no” and get to know one another better.