Keep challenging yourself, pushing yourself a little bit more and taking healthy risks. Push your comfort zone until you are so comfortable being uncomfortable, that your comfort zone has greatly expanded.
Encourage people to choose their direction and use mastery concepts to get there. What do you want to master? How quickly are you willing to master that? What would it take to hold yourself to account in mastering it as quickly as possible? Now demonstrate mastery, with an audience and hold yourself to that standard. We do that naturally, when we play. Ironic, isn’t it? How about this? The chemical cocktail that rewards the brain is amazing and increases life satisfaction. Play more, go into flow by pursuing mastery and taking risks and you will have a life that is highly rewarding emotionally and satisfying. Want to be the best version of you? Play more. No one needs motivation to play.
Can you picture yourself doing that? What is the most outlandish thing you can picture yourself doing? Someone has already done that, most likely. Increase it a little bit. Everyone in sports psychology gets the relationship between visualizing it and being able to do it. You greatly increase your odds of doing it in reality, if you have previously pictured it, even if it was previously thought to be impossible.
We all learn new patterns at our own pace and we can improve the pace of learning by visualizing. It increases the ease of the process and a smoother transition.
It does not matter if no one has done it before, mental rehearsal helps manage anxiety and fear. The frontal lobe is less engaged and fear has less ability to take hold. You can picture the perfect form or the best result and you are programming your mind, which extends to your physiology. Or you can work really hard, set goals, overcome each fear individually and have incremental progress…
Kids are less fearful for a host of reasons. Their brains have not fully formed the frontal lobe and that helps. They don’t know what is “impossible” and so will try those things that adults don’t even attempt. As they slip into flow, the pre-frontal cortex starts to shut down, and they are more prone to flow. One study talkeda bout them hovering on the edge of flow much of the time. Put a kid who is hovering on the edge into flow and it is an easier process to get into flow repeatedly. No one needs to externally validate them or tell them to practice it because it is such a wonderful experience. Autonomy, mastery and purpose made conscious…
Steven Kotler- Superman and the Art of Impossible