“After what you said in that “conversation,” there is absolutely nothing you could offer me that would make it worth my while to talk with you again.”
Imagine you are newly in a relationship and there were multiple felonies committed in a conversation. The person revealed that they were willing to harm or even destroy you, rather than hear your pain.
The relationship is far too new to have established a baseline of trust and this breach or rupture happens.
You try to get back on track and not make it worse.
You try to establish listening and clarifying and validating but it is not successful. You might even be trying to set up parameters and believe the other is blocking you.
I don’t know many people that would give that a second chance.
“You showed me that we are not partners or teammates. You treated me like the enemy and now you want me to trust that you would not do it again?”
Even that statement could be overcome, with the basics- clarification, validation and listening to understand.
Absent those, I do not often see those conversations being successful.
What could have been a decent relationship gets scrapped by a conversational deal breaker.
Imagine you are newly in a relationship and there were multiple felonies committed in a conversation. The person revealed that they were willing to harm or even destroy you, rather than hear your pain.
The relationship is far too new to have established a baseline of trust and this breach or rupture happens.
You try to get back on track and not make it worse.
You try to establish listening and clarifying and validating but it is not successful. You might even be trying to set up parameters and believe the other is blocking you.
I don’t know many people that would give that a second chance.
“You showed me that we are not partners or teammates. You treated me like the enemy and now you want me to trust that you would not do it again?”
Even that statement could be overcome, with the basics- clarification, validation and listening to understand.
Absent those, I do not often see those conversations being successful.
What could have been a decent relationship gets scrapped by a conversational deal breaker.
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