Tantra deals with dissolving the opposites and using their complementarity to restore wholeness. We are one and transcendental, if we would but realize it.
Merge the male and female and we have union. Sexuality is one way to do this, so be aware and conscious and open to this union. Don’t be someone who minimizes it or exploits.
Treat it as special because it has power to transform your life.
Unite with your own male and female principles within yourself and your own consciousness. Don’t bother with the silly concepts you hear in our society about a real man or a real woman. You have masculine and feminine energies within you that are out of harmony, unless you have consciously done this work.
Don’t discard or exile any of your energy by judging it as soft or not right. Accept everything that is and allow it to flow without interfering or controlling.
Unify with a divine self- that is the goal.
In yoga, sometimes the teacher will greet students with “namaste.” The best definition I heard from a teacher was “The divine in me recognizes the divine in you.”
You have to own that you have divinity and then you act differently. You also own that everyone else does and it makes a difference in how we treat others. If I truly see myself as having any divinity, there are actions that don’t really go with that.
If I see everyone else as divine, there goes using people and exploiting others. Transformative
Harness your sexuality, sublimate it by not just going for ejaculation or prioritizing orgasm and use this energy to
transcend your body. Keep building the energy of excitement and then release it. There are techniques that deal with cultivating the energy. In essence, build your pleasure and excitement and keep building it until your energy is full.
Your gas tank is rarely full.
Keep building until it is full and then channel it and experience what happens without interfering.
Watch what naturally happens when you practice these techniques.
EXERCISE: Breathing exercise 2- Try breathing exercise number 1 while pleasuring self or partner. Both do the breathing in synch (when you have mastered the pleasuring breathing), to really feel connected.
The idea isn’t to hurry but to enjoy one another, to harmonize, to be connected and unite. Do this multiple times until the breathing becomes second nature. Breathing relaxes you and opens you up emotionally to your partner.--