There are some experiences you can only have if you have a body. Use the body for what it is intended, to experience joy and pleasure and ecstasy and then the body leads you to experiences that transcend the body. Try it, you’ll like it.
“Your bodies are simply vehicles through which to feel and express your deepest truth, your unbounded openness, your divine nature, the love who you are. Practice being love and being penetrated by divine love.
“This feeling of two merging into one is the epitome of sacred and secular pleasure.
“Merging with the divine -the mystery and depth of open being -has very little to do with infantile oneness, losing yourself in athletic Flow, or merging with your Woman emotionally. Whereas all these mergers are with a particular state a pleasure, excitement, or empathy, divine merger is not with any particular state at all, but with the deep openness of all states.
“Practice opening as the depth of being in the midst of sex. Then, spiritual bliss will include and exceed the merely sexual.” Deida
EXERCISE: “We can practice realizing this depth over and over, when things are good or bad. Feel through every condition and merge with Divine openness, your true nature, the true nature of everyone and everything, over and over until it’s no longer dependent on outside conditions which are always changing.” Deida
Have you tried doing the exercises on a regular basis (The Art of Sexual Ecstasy by Margo Anand) yet? Are you practicing this particular one 10-20 times before it becomes comfortable during sex? It is time to get the book, and read it, if you have not already done so. Here is an exercise to practice: The Square Stretch