I have heard many people say they are not meant for relationships, that they are just too complicated and they don’t get why people go through the pain.
What if relationships are simply tools for growth? What if being happy is the side effect of helping another person grow and growth is the actual point?
Are you helping your partner discover their true nature?
Are you forgiving them for being human?
Are you letting them be who they are?
“This is the true purpose of maleness and femaleness- to help the soul discover its true nature, which is beyond gender, through interactions and relationships of gender. Working to help each other grow toward enlightenment. Don’t scrutinize each other’s actions and accuse them of being egoistic -don’t deny your own misgivings and limitations. Make sure that you are understanding the other person and yourself and make sure that you forgive. Understand that your partner is a struggling soul who is, in reality, striving for the same goal as you –enlightenment” Ashby
Exercise: Take an inventory of what you do that demonstrates a fundamental understanding of who you are and what relationships are about. Look at your own side and attempt to improve rather than asking your partner to improve.
Exercise: Want to be happy in a relationship? Keep appreciating yourself and your partner. Keep looking for beauty and opportunities to serve others. These are keys to happiness and they are in your control.