What Is Worth It?
“... the process of discovering what is truly fulfilling, liberating and meaningful in life
“... giving up those things which lead to bondage and pain.
“Under the influence of sentimental attachment, people want to feel like they “belong to each other”…this feeling can escalate into “ownership”. Oftentimes people enter into relationships to satisfy their own desires. The desires can never be quenched by indulging in the pleasures of the world. (Key concept in Ashby’s writing)
“The desires of your mind and body cannot be satisfied through objects, people and wealth.
Ordinary married people engage in competition to see who can get more out of a relationship. Others may feel the need to be selfless but will still expect something in return. “I did this and you’ve done nothing.”
ECERCISE: Sometimes we look at the relationship and see how the other person can be useful or helpful. Look at your relationship and be honest about whether or not you are using the other. (Transactional instead of developing a true relationship)
“She might hold sex as an incentive for getting him to do what she desires. If he does not submit to her, she may curse him with her weapons of angry words, and hurtful humiliating remarks. He may bring flowers, candy and expect to have sex only to find she was not in the mood or that she’s punishing him for something he did that she did not appreciate.
Unable to handle his ego with emotions and desires there is frustration and anger which will eventually turn into hatred. She will eventually lose respect for him and develop disgust with the relationship.” (Most of this section is from Ashby)
EXERCISE: “Frustration and misunderstanding engenders a desire to look elsewhere for satisfaction. Are you getting relationship needs met outside your relationship? Are you asking your partner to help you meet these?
“If they stay together, as time goes on, when the sexual attraction wears off, there will be disgust and regret because they “wasted time.”” Ashby
“... the process of discovering what is truly fulfilling, liberating and meaningful in life
“... giving up those things which lead to bondage and pain.
“Under the influence of sentimental attachment, people want to feel like they “belong to each other”…this feeling can escalate into “ownership”. Oftentimes people enter into relationships to satisfy their own desires. The desires can never be quenched by indulging in the pleasures of the world. (Key concept in Ashby’s writing)
“The desires of your mind and body cannot be satisfied through objects, people and wealth.
Ordinary married people engage in competition to see who can get more out of a relationship. Others may feel the need to be selfless but will still expect something in return. “I did this and you’ve done nothing.”
ECERCISE: Sometimes we look at the relationship and see how the other person can be useful or helpful. Look at your relationship and be honest about whether or not you are using the other. (Transactional instead of developing a true relationship)
“She might hold sex as an incentive for getting him to do what she desires. If he does not submit to her, she may curse him with her weapons of angry words, and hurtful humiliating remarks. He may bring flowers, candy and expect to have sex only to find she was not in the mood or that she’s punishing him for something he did that she did not appreciate.
Unable to handle his ego with emotions and desires there is frustration and anger which will eventually turn into hatred. She will eventually lose respect for him and develop disgust with the relationship.” (Most of this section is from Ashby)
EXERCISE: “Frustration and misunderstanding engenders a desire to look elsewhere for satisfaction. Are you getting relationship needs met outside your relationship? Are you asking your partner to help you meet these?
“If they stay together, as time goes on, when the sexual attraction wears off, there will be disgust and regret because they “wasted time.”” Ashby
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