Are you depressed?
Are you angry?
Be self aware- what is it that you need for yourself right now?
Ask your partner what they need.
Sometimes it is as simple as being understood. Maybe it is sitting in silence on the couch watching a movie until the mood passes.
You cannot be emotionally connected without emotions, so tune in there
Tune in to your attitude and how it matches your partner.
Do you match your partner's breathing and other non verbals?
Tune into how you are matching one another with behavior and use of words.
Do you want your partner to contact you and are unwilling to ask for it?
Go into full empathy mode repeatedly in your time together.
This is the “work “ people talk about when they say relationships are hard work.
Do this process over and over and you stay attached and attuned. Tune out and you lose the connection.
Pay attention to this and when you realize you’re day dreaming, tune back in to their feelings, attitude and body language again. Over and over again...