Think about the movie stars who exude sexuality and confidence. I can think of a few actresses that are so feminine, it awakens the masculine in pretty much everyone who watches. If you are unsure what I mean, watch a movie with a superstar and you will almost always feel their sexuality. They are in touch with their sexuality. They come off as authentic, genuine and are present. There is something captivating about them. They are physically attractive usually, but it is more than that. Confident and charismatic, they hold themselves, their bodies differently…
They evoke a response.
EXERCISE : Practice having a presence. In acting, they talk about a stage presence.
When you walk, do you walk with your head in the lead? Your chest or stomach? Your hips or butt? Your legs?
Practice 10 steps with each of the above. Feel into the physical sensation and emotion of each.
Now, what way do you want to walk? It might be different according to the situation- going up to your partner for a passionate kiss, going down a dark alley, walking into a bar, family reunion, boss’ office, sport etc Are you being real, authentic in how you hold yourself? Does it work for you? Do you need to practice posture or walking or do you need to boost your confidence?
Take a day off and just be aware, without changing anything you do. Just notice what you do and the impact it has on others. How are you influencing them? You have an impact one way or another.